You remember that scene in, For Love of the Game, with Kevin Costner? What follows is in a sense doing just that, clearing the mechanism.
”How we live is so different from how we ought to live that he who studies what ought to be done rather than what is done will learn the way to his downfall rather than to his preservation.” –The Prince, Niccolo Machiavelli
In other words, GET REAL!
Okay, here’s real. It’s been 69 days since my father passed away. The underlying feelings when addressed is that to which I assume is what people describe as dead inside.
“Who doesn’t desire his father’s death?” – Fyodor Dostoevsky
“Those who have never had a father can at any rate know the sweets of losing one. To most men, the death of his father is a new lease of life.” -Samuel Butler